Tips on Writing Condolence Notes

A sympathy or condolence note is a simple yet effective way to let family and friends know that they are in your thoughts as they go through the difficult process of grief and mourning. Here are some tips that can make finding the right words easier:

Acknowledge the Loss and Name the Deceased

"I was so saddened to hear that Tom died."

Share a Favorite Memory

"He was such a great storyteller. I remember at last year's summer party how he entertained all the kids with one of his crazy tales. He had their full attention and they laughed and giggled about the ending long after."

Express Your Sympathy

Include in your letter a thoughtful word, a hope or a wish such as "Please accept my sympathy," "You are in my thoughts," or "Wishing you God's peace." Closings such as "sincerely" or "fondly" aren't quite as personal.

Clearly Identify Yourself

Include your last name when signing your note as there may be many with a similar first name. Offer how you knew the deceased if you do not know the family well or you haven't been in contact for a while. "Sarah Jones (Tom & Judy Black's daughter)." Provide a clearly written return address.


Tips on Writing Condolence Notes